Mark Metry believes more people suffer from social anxiety than they realize. He wants to inspire you to have the confidence to just be yourself.
He’s the author of Screw Being Shy. Several years ago he decided to go all in on his current business to become an advocate for social anxiety as a speaker, coach and trainer.
Check out his podcast Social Anxiety Society on your favorite podcast app.
Lot of great lessons in our conversations including:
- Why you may not actually be an introvert, but might be suffering from social anxiety instead.
- How he believes his social anxiety developed and the years of work it took to recover from it.
- Why he now refers to himself as a “spiritual warrior”.
- The false mask of social confidence.
- How social anxiety holds back the growth of your business.
Life Skills That Matter In This Episode
- Build community.
- Self-directed learning.
- Tell your story.
How Mark Works and Thinks
- Wake up time: 6:30 am
- Core work activities + habits: 1) Mentally organize himself. 2) Literal organization to help you focus on what you’re best at. 3) Going for walks and scheduling his non-video meetings for while he’s taking a walk.
- Ideal work environment: Usually in the early morning, after his morning routine, then sitting down with instrumental music and blocking out the world.
- Superpower: The ability to turn darkness into light and be himself in front of anyone.
“There’s always layers to life and there’s always a deeper sense of life.”
“If you want to say something to the world and you actually, genuinely do want to be social, but then there’s this part of your brain, this nervous system that literally controls you and restricts your free will, that’s what social anxiety is.”
“Most people are treating their lives as side-hustles and they’re treating their career that they work for at some corporation and their boss as their entire life.”
“You use that darkness to eventually learn and transform it into light.”
Feeling weighed down by shyness or social anxiety? Mark suggested these first steps to start charting a new path forward:
1) If you feel like social anxiety is your problem, you need to drill deeper to understand the “why”.
2) If this seems overly simple or stupid, that could be a trap preventing you from addressing your social anxiety, so be skeptical about your own thinking around the topic.
3) Realize that you don’t have all the answers.
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